All of us have two kinds of habits: physical (the ones we can see) and mental (the ones we repeat inside our heads). 

Both play an equal role in defining our everyday life…and thus our future. 

But we pay way too much attention to our physical habits, and essentially zero to our mental ones. 

We try to build a great body on the outside, but the mental habit of disrespecting ourselves keeps satisfaction at bay. 

We do our best to perform consistently at work, but our habit of always feeling insecure never lets us enjoy the fruits of our labor. 

We try to quit our addictions, thinking distance will do the trick, but our habit of desiring harmful stuff ensures we go right back. 

A fancier phrase for these habits is “subconscious thought patterns,” but I like to call them invisible habits. Because I realized that while I was busy patching things up on the surface, these deep-rooted habits were secretly killing my growth like a poisonous gas spreading through a room. 

The question is, could they be killing your growth, too? 

#1: I am not Enough. 

How many times have you said to yourself, “I’m not ready” when a great opportunity came in front of you? 

If you can’t count because the number feels too high, I’m with you. Because I couldn’t come up with a number, either. It was just too much to keep track of. 

And that’s why I felt stuck and inconsistent for a long, long time. I would see people my age (even younger) doing incredible stuff and taking fast action, and I would wonder, “Why am I not able to?”

In hindsight, it’s easy to find the answer. I wasn’t jumping on opportunities like other people because my mind said, “I’m not ready.”

For absolutely no reason at all. 

And that’s the scariest part. I had made it a habit to say “I’m not ready” even when I was. My logical mind knew I had everything to get started on, but the invisible habit would creep up and stall my progress. 

That’s why, the next time this thought comes to you, I want you to ask yourself, “What’s the reason? Is this true? Why am I not ready?”

The more you question, the more you’ll start breaking this invisible habit because it thrives on your ignorance and starves on your awareness. 

And you’ll notice a wonderful shift in yourself when you do this questioning consistently for two weeks; you’ll start laughing at all the silly excuses you used earlier to justify why you’re not ready, for you will finally realize that you are already more ready than you think. 

That’s when you unlock the power that’s hiding in you and become a massive action taker. 

#2 Judgement is Bad 

This habit is the mental equivalent of brushing your teeth. 

As a kid, you were taught to brush your teeth so many times that it’s become a natural part of your life now. Just like that, you were taught to be afraid of judgement, ridicule, and rejection so many times that being afraid is now a natural part of your life. 

And it’s limiting your growth in more ways than you can imagine. 

Because if there’s one thing in the world you CANNOT control, it’s the way people think about you (or more specifically, the way they judge you). 

And you’ve now become so sensitive to judgement that before taking action, you think about the perceptions it will create. If it is a perception you don’t want, you modify the action, just to ensure people won’t think of you in the wrong way. 

Can I tell you the truth? 

They will STILL judge you and have the perception you don’t want. It’s not in your control. And I had a hard time accepting this, especially because I was posting content online and trying to avoid judgement. 

That’s like using a chainsaw to cut an onion. It just doesn’t work. 

And I realized that it’s much easier to change my expectations than other people’s perceptions. So now, instead of avoiding judgement, I’ve detached myself from it. 

I try my best to focus on my purpose to empower and help people grow. So, I do all the things necessary to convey that message. But does that mean everyone will love me? No. 

And I am okay with that. 

You must start being okay with it, too. And how will you know you’ve got there? 

Simple. The day you take action by thinking, “This is exciting! I want to do this!” and not “What will people think about this?” you’ve become detached and ready for launching yourself into the orbit of massive growth.