In the first week of 2026, I’m proud to say I’ve already achieved one of my most important goals.

I’m not saying that to brag. I’m saying that because just achieving this one thing has unlocked so much happiness, fulfillment, and love in my life, that I’ve never felt so sorted and amazing before. And I want to help you achieve the same because it’s way easier than I ever imagined.

You see, for the first time, I fell in love.

Not with anyone else. But with myself. For the first time, I feel comfortable in being the way I am, with all my quirks, imperfections, ambitions, crazy dreams, fears, doubts, worries, and so much more.

For the first time, I am accepting myself the way I am. Deep down, I know I’m not just saying it for the sake of it; I truly mean it.

And through that acceptance, I am now able to take all the action towards my other goals so much more easily and effortlessly.

Now I realize, we actually got the whole thing wrong. All this time, we thought we needed motivation to achieve everything we wanted, but that’s not true. What we really need is love, especially the one that comes from ourselves. 

You Are Love.

This has been my most important learning in the first six days of this year, all thanks to Byron Katie’s incredible book, “I Need Your Love—is that true?”

The entire premise of her perspective comes down to this idea: We are love. Everything we look for from other people in the form of comfort, love, and approval is already within us. And once we connect to that unlimited source of love within, people and situations no longer hurt us. 

Here’s how she says it in one paragraph:

“Love is what you are already. Love doesn’t seek anything. It’s already complete. It doesn’t want, doesn’t need, has no shoulds. It already has everything it wants, it already is everything it wants, just the way it wants it. So when I hear people say that they love someone and want to be loved in return, I know they’re not talking about love. They’re talking about something else. Sometimes you may seem to trade love for the stressful thought appearing in the moment. It’s a little trip out into illusion. Seeking love is how you lose the awareness of love. But you can only lose the awareness of it, not the state. That’s not an option, because love is what we all are.”

I know, it’s deep and maybe even a bit confusing. When I read it first, I had to go through it twice before my mind could make sense of what just happened.

So let me explain.

All our lives, we have been sold an idea of love.

You’ll find ‘the one’ who will be exactly the person for you. They will complete you. They’ll have fun with you. They’ll share a wonderful chemistry with you. And that’s someone you’ll call your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend.

If not that, you’re told you’ll have amazing friends that accept, love, and care for you just the way you are and give you a sense of connection.

This seems fun and harmless on the surface. But when we go deeper into this belief, it takes a sinister turn.

Because what it suggests, subconsciously, is this: Until you don’t find that person or that group of people, you’re not complete and you are not loved.

So, we spend a huge portion of our lives on finding people who’ll complete us. Whether it’s romantic partners or friends, we get excited when a new connection forms because it holds the potential to give us what we’ve been looking for. And for some time, we do feel all of that.

But then comes the part none of us want. The person goes away. Maybe it’s a fallout, or a breakup, or a slow crack. But whatever it is, deep down it hurts us. Not because that person is leaving, but because we are afraid, we’ll lose out on all the love and connection we felt because of that person.

And that makes us feel attached. That’s when we get desperate. What was once a beautiful relationship becomes a tug of war that no one wins.

The good news is, all these problems can vanish in a second when you understand what Byron Katie meant with the paragraph I just shared with you.

All the love we seek is already within us. That’s why when we’re infants, we laugh at anything and everything. We keep finding love and happiness in the strangest of things. We don’t even need people to love us, sometimes a piece of cardboard is enough.

But then we grow up. 

And the world programs us to believe that we must fulfill certain conditions to love and be loved. We must get the approval of others. We must listen and be amicable. We must be kind and considerate.

All of that’s good. But as we come to believe those things, we lose awareness of the love within us, and start seeking it from other people.

The craziest part is, when we fall in love with someone, or have a crush on them, all the lovey-dovey feelings we get aren’t love that we have for them. It’s love that we have for ourselves. The other person’s presence has made us aware of our own capacity to love and be loved.

But the mistake we make is thinking that the other person is making us feel this. So we get attached. When we’re not in a relationship, we’re oscillating between hope and fear. “Will it happen, or will it not? Will he like me back? Will she think I’m good enough?”

When we’re in the relationship, we’re still oscillating between hope and fear. Why? Now we have the love, but we’re afraid it will go away if this person goes away.

We hold on. We beg. We say, “I need you. Without you, I don’t know how I’d live.”

While those statements sound romantic and flirtatious on the surface, we know they’re not true. They are limiting how much love you experience.

Because when we say that, we don’t feel abundant and secure. We feel lack and insecure. That’s not love. That’s anxiety dressed up like love. 

But when you realize the truth: Love is what you are. You’ve only lost the awareness of it. When you get back in touch with the love that is within, you feel complete now. You feel loved and worthy now. You feel ecstatic now.

And all attachments melt away. You no longer need people’s love. Yes, you’d love to have it. You’d be honored to share the experience of love with somebody. But you don’t need them to make you complete or loved or heard. All of that is already within you.

When we feel that, we unlock massive growth in every single area of our lives.

Because that love allows us to see the truth that’s been hiding in plain sight, which I would like to leave you with in Byron Katie’s words: “I’ve always been just me, but I was the last one to know that it was all right.”

In 2026, be you, and watch how quickly, effortlessly, and lovingly, you achieve everything you wanted.